The Cost of Living

Having coffee recently with a close friend, she told me a story from her past of which I had little idea.  She told me a sad and sorry tale about her relationship with an ex-partner.  She had found out a lie thatsad he had told and it quickly unraveled revealing that her whole life with him had been based in deception; in fact it was so bad he could end up in jail.  He had created a whole life based in lies and denial which had got out of control and built to something akin to the Leaning Tower of Pisa – only his construction had nothing to support it and it had fallen spectacularly.

Knowing something of her family background I asked how they had taken it.  Naturally they were furious but, surprisingly, much of their anger was directed at her.  When I asked why they would react in that way she explained that after the initial shock and pain the only feeling she held was gratitude to him.  ‘I was devastated initially to think that I had shared my life with him for so long and it was all based in a tissue of lies.  Quickly I realised that during our time together, and as a result of the outcome, I had learned an enormous amount about myself and how I face life.  He had taught me all of that, so how could I not be grateful?  After all, that is the Cost of Living!’

After I left her I thought about what she had said and indeed our experiences are the Cost of Living.  Without challenges in our life how would we learn what resourceful and courageous people we truly are?  We would never know the boundless inner strength we can access when faced with painful situations or how amazingly we pull through when life seems to throw us the curved ball.  Anyone around us, who gives us a hard time, really does help us to discover our true self; our compassion, our values and our boundaries.   We could even choose to consider them a gift in our life!

So when difficulties come along and we feel upset, angry, hurt, fearful or alone, let us take time to reflect on what is our personal Cost of Living.  When we look past the pain we will always discover the gold in every situation.  Treating the situation from a point of compassion towards ourselves and those involved helps us realise that the wisdom gained is what will carry us through to a brighter and freer future.

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Goddess Rising and Sister Wives

Reality TV is not my favourite genre but I have become quite a fan of a show called Sister Wives. You may have watched it yourselves. It reflects the life of a polygamist family in America and the way in which the four wives work together to provide the most amazing framework of love and support for their children and each other. The whole process is fascinating and has really changed my ill-informed view of this way of life.
Kody, the husband, has his work cut out accommodating the four distinct personalities, strengths and challenges of his ‘wives’. Of course he is only married in law to one wife and has religious dedications to all of them, which in his eyes is the most binding. Their children are supportive of each other, have a sense of community, are articulate, confident and intelligent.
This family has been hounded out of their home state at the risk of being torn apart by the law. Whilst this is not a lifestyle for me, I do not understand why they are considered to be breaking any law. Surely, Kody is not practicing bigamy, as in the eyes of the law he is only married to one wife. It seems that is would be acceptable if he had one wife but was having relationships with three others behind his wife’s back and creating numerous children for the state to fund. They have four homes for which he pays taxes, they have income as they all work – taxes again – and, from the happiness displayed by all concerned he appears to be an attentive husband and a supportive father.

The Family

My fascination is the way in which the sister wives are so supportive of each other; they have a united focus – the family – and each are fulfilled in their own way. This to me is the gentle powerful strength available to all women. It is hard to define at what point in history women lost their standing in society. All old cultures had women as the wise ones, the Oracle was always a female, the Druids and many other ancient religions had priests and priestess as equals. So when did it all change and why?
Change it did but we do not need to engage in ‘man bashing’ or be anti-men as it was in the late 1950’s when I was growing towards adulthood.  As the movement for ‘equality’ began, I never felt it was the correct wording; women are equal to men, they are one half of a whole.  The discrepancy was actually  ‘equal opportunity’ and at the time that  was most definitely lacking.  Germaine Greer did a great job for the time because it really was a male oriented society; she needed to bring the inequality of opportunity to public awareness and help women to step out of, what for some, amounted to prison in the most powerful way and she became despised and judged for it by women and ridiculed by men.  Women had no rights in law, rape was always considered the woman’s fault so rarely came to court and if it did, it was presided over by an all male system, abuse was swept under the carpet, children would be taken from the mother if she attempted to leave her marriage and returned to the father, irrespective of the type of life they would endure with him, as she would have no money to support them and so on…

Because of this lack of equality in opportunity, mother’s taught their daughters both openly and covertly that this was the way it was, this is how you kept a man in your life so ‘suck it up’, it couldn’t change.  And there was the trap – the belief that it could not change handed down through generations.  My own mother would jump to the word of any man, except my father of course!  If a man spoke it, then it had to be true, if she was required to jump she would ask ‘how high?’  Yet she was fiercely independent and a business woman to boot so it didn’t match, but her mother did a great number on her belief system. However, she came a bit unstuck in passing it on to me; thank goodness for the 1960’s!

The World of Women has Changed

The result of Ms Greer and others was that the world for women has changed; not 100% yet as female graduates coming out from professional training often get paid less than their male counterparts – amazing that with such strict politically correct frameworks in place that this is still allowed and women don’t challenge it .  However, now at least women can have education towards their chosen careers, can leave a bad marriage with support of the law, can have children without actually involving the father and have an unprecedented level of freedom.

So let us stop referring to men as the ‘bad guys’ because over generations women have played their part in the process.  Fear of abandonment and starvation, of public opinion – women are pretty talented at judging other women – and the belief that ‘we need a man in our life to feel whole, complete, fulfilled – whatever the buzz word is at the time. all of it has created the situation and now we are in the best position to balance it out.  Let us remember the ancient feminine wisdom encoded within usGoddess Rising and Sister Wives

We are constantly told to balance our male/female energies and for some this wording may create misunderstanding but we do have within us the potential behaviour of both; all human beings have the potential to be gentle, loving and caring, the traditional female stereotype, but we can also be forceful, driven and ambitious, often seen as  the male preserve.  By bring it all together we balance it out to compassion and understanding; no-one in control, no situations seen as women’s work or the man’s job, just balance and harmony.

As Kody, the plural marriage husband, indicates in his interviews, it is not easy to balance his time, love and support between his wives but it is not impossible; it just requires the desire to try.  So instead of looking at the people in our lives as male or female let us understand  them as individuals with their own fears, needs, hopes and dreams.  Let us pull together in sisterhood.

Sisterhood

Our own Catherine Bullard says :-

 ‘Sisterhood is not an exclusive group or an anti-men symposium. It is a way of being. It is a celebration of all that is gloriously and potently feminine.   It is foremost a choice to be alive and luscious in your female mystery and it is a path of the heart. Sisterhood is a movement of kindness’.                                                                                                      

It is time to celebrate our Sisterhood so join Catherine for her Feminine Wisdom Circle and tap into that part within that holds our ancient wisdom.  The group is held monthly at the time of the New Moon to maximise its creative energy as with the wise women of ancient times.

Join us to share, support, nurture and take some time to be with like-minded souls for ceremony, reflection and connection and let us step into that gentle feminine power with love and understanding together.  Visit our calendar to book into the next Feminine Wisdom Circle workshop

Regards

Jane G Offer

The Purple Dragonfly

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Trance Channel Healing interview with Dave Offer – Rangid Part 3

SPEAK UP 4 Oneness media presents an interview with Dave Offer a spiritual intuitive healer who works with a spirit entity named Ranjid enabling healing in alignment with the higher self of a person.

Dave Offer describes his fascinating life growing up in London, working for the Crown Jewellers and becoming a buyer of quality silver around the world. He speaks of life changes which led him into the fascinating reality of hands on spiritual healing.

Together with his wife Jane they ran a Natural Health Centre called Spectrum Health Trust in Britain an accredited training centre. They had clients in the UK, USA and Europe. They had the opportunity to work in prisons, with drug addicts and alcoholics and those with a range of health problems. They regarded their healing work as complimentary to modern medicine. Today they work with a group of incredible practitioners and trainers drawn together to establish The Purple Dragonfly Centre in Warrandyte to share the combined knowledge and support with the community.

Dave discusses his experience as a trance healer and how he was led into this reality. He speaks about the process of following his guide Silver Wolf, An American Indian, learning to trust and follow. He said he has a healthy scepticism, questioned his sanity and was convinced that this was real and to learn to let go of control and allow.

He met is spiritual healing partner, Rangid Singh. He speaks of how Rangid came to him and overtime how he learned to use trance to allow Rangid to heal. He said he lost time and had no idea what had happened.

During the interview Rangid comes into the conversation and explains who he is and what he does and why? He speaks of his collaboration with David. At one point Rangid explains how he identifies cancer in the body and how he rebalances the body’s energy systems to align with the true nature. He speaks about the basic cause of all illness and dis-ease. He explains what the purpose of every human is.

To watch the live interview, click here.

David Offer

Dave lives with his wife in Warrandyte, Melbourne. Together they work at the Purple Dragonfly. If you wish to contact David please visit their shop.

If you missed interview one, please click here.

If you missed interview two, please click here.

From the Crown Jewels to Spiritual Healing with David Offer Part 2

SPEAK UP 4 Oneness media presents an interview with Dave Offer a spiritual intuitive healer who works with a spirit entity named Ranjid enabling healing in alignment with the higher self of a person.

Dave Offer describes his fascinating life growing up in London, working for the Crown Jewellers and becoming a buyer of quality silver around the world. He speaks of life changes which led him into the fascinating reality of hands on spiritual healing.

Together with his wife Jane they ran a Natural Health Centre called Spectrum Health Trust in Britain an accredited training centre. They had clients in the UK, USA and Europe. They had the opportunity to work in prisons, with drug addicts and alcoholics and those with a range of health problems. They regarded their healing work as complimentary to modern medicine. Today they work with a group of incredible practitioners and trainers drawn together to establish The Purple Dragonfly Centre in Warrandyte to share the combined knowledge and support with the community.

Dave discusses his experience as a trance healer and how he was led into this reality. He speaks about the process of following his guide Silver Wolf, An American Indian, learning to trust and follow. He said he has a healthy scepticism, questioned his sanity and was convinced that this was real and to learn to let go of control and allow.

He met is spiritual healing partner, Rangid Singh. He speaks of how Rangid came to him and overtime how he learned to use trance to allow Rangid to heal. He said he lost time and had no idea what had happened.

During the interview Rangid comes into the conversation and explains who he is and what he does and why? He speaks of his collaboration with David. At one point Rangid explains how he identifies cancer in the body and how he rebalances the body’s energy systems to align with the true nature. He speaks about the basic cause of all illness and dis-ease. He explains what the purpose of every human is.

Watch the live interview here:

David Offer

Dave lives with his wife in Warrandyte, Melbourne. Together they work at the Purple Dragonfly. If you wish to contact David please contact their shop.

If you missed interview one, click here.

To watch interview three, click here.

From the Crown Jewels to Spiritual Healing with David Offer Part 1

SPEAK UP 4 Oneness media presents an interview with Dave Offer a spiritual intuitive healer who works with a spirit entity named Ranjid enabling healing in alignment with the higher self of a person.

Dave Offer describes his fascinating life growing up in London, working for the Crown Jewellers and becoming a buyer of quality silver around the world. He speaks of life changes which led him into the fascinating reality of hands on spiritual healing.

Together with his wife Jane they ran a Natural Health Centre called Spectrum Health Trust in Britain an accredited training centre. They had clients in the UK, USA and Europe. They had the opportunity to work in prisons, with drug addicts and alcoholics and those with a range of health problems. They regarded their healing work as complimentary to modern medicine. Today they work with a group of incredible practitioners and trainers drawn together to establish The Purple Dragonfly Centre in Warrandyte to share the combined knowledge and support with the community.

Dave discusses his experience as a trance healer and how he was led into this reality. He speaks about the process of following his guide Silver Wolf, An American Indian, learning to trust and follow. He said he has a healthy scepticism, questioned his sanity and was convinced that this was real and to learn to let go of control and allow.

He met is spiritual healing partner, Rangid Singh. He speaks of how Rangid came to him and overtime how he learned to use trance to allow Rangid to heal. He said he lost time and had no idea what had happened.

During the interview Rangid comes into the conversation and explains who he is and what he does and why? He speaks of his collaboration with David. At one point Rangid explains how he identifies cancer in the body and how he rebalances the body’s energy systems to align with the true nature. He speaks about the basic cause of all illness and dis-ease. He explains what the purpose of every human is.

Watch the interview live here:

Dave lives with his wife in Warrandyte, Melbourne. Together they work at the Purple Dragonfly. If you wish to contact David please contact the shop in Warrandyte

To watch the second interview, click here.

To watch the third interview, click here.

Changing

Times they are a-changing!

Have you noticed that your life is changing; things don’t seem quite the same in your thoughts, your feelings and what you are prepared to accept into your life?  It’s as though suddenly you can see more clearly what has been going on and that you are ready to ‘do it different’.    It can be painful, disorientating and unsettling on the one hand but deeply insightful on the other.

Why does the persistent and relentless energy of change seem to be stronger at the moment? Part of the reason is, that during late August and the first half of September, the Sun was in Virgo creating a move to deeper awareness and strengthening our desire for positive change to come forward, with its essence being that any change is better than no change at all.  This may have created some concerns but, as the Sun enters Libra, many of the blocks that have been standing in our way to achieving a fabulous and joyous life, can dissolve when we embrace the opportunity to receive the information that allows us to make well informed choices.  When we allow life to flow, we align ourselves to what sits deep in our own knowing, take action and change our future.

If you don’t like something, change it.

If you can’t change it, change your attitude toward it.

~  Maya Angelou

Some of us do not like change, we may even be afraid of it, but we cannot allow that to lure us into accepting any circumstance that is not comfortable.  We can accept that we are the only one that can change our life; no outside influence or person can do that for us or to us.  Only we, the individual, can challenge our own thought patterns, make a different choice and become awakened and empowered by life. It takes courage to step out onto that road of discovery but the inevitability of time means that nothing can stay the same anyway so we may as well take that first step consciously.

We have the potential to create changes right across our life; doing nothing or having nothing happen will not be possible for anyone at this time and by December this year we will each have had the opportunity to move through a really positive phase.  This phase has the potential to change every area of our life including, family, home, career and even relationships if we choose.  All we have to do take that first step!

Jane xxx

Go with the Flow

I do feel vaguely annoyed when I am experiencing a crisis and a well-meaning person says ‘Oh, just go with the flow’.  Isn’t that a pain?  They probably mean that I should allow the situation to unravel and just be the observer but I’m upset and it’s not what I want to hear, right?

Translation of another’s words rely on our own personal experience and to me this brings up a picture of sitting cross legged, surrounded by a haze of goodness knows what and sounding the OM!  Not something I ever did you understand but that is my era.  In those days I lived the illusion that somehow I could control life and it would comply with my wishes; I soon learned that is not how it actually works.  I realised that there are two separate agencies at work here; Life flow and Universal flow.

Life flow is merely a mechanism; we live within it and it holds a myriad of potential experiences and outcomes that are available to everyone.  On an amazing course I attended I discovered, and I truly believe it, that life itself is designed to have no absolute meaning; only the meaning that we individually place upon it.  In this way, we all experience life from a different perspective as it occurs and this forms the various viewpoints we each hold on every subject we encounter.  Like a car engine, it offers the propulsion but not the full experience.

Perfect –so Life flow encourages us to believe we are at its whim, that we must sit back and wait for life to flow towards us.  Does this work for our individual needs though?  Not really, because we fall into the trap of allowing the engine to drive us without taking into consideration the whole vehicle. We become upset and fearful when It takes us where it wants to go and not where we feel we need to go.  We know the journey is out of control but we continue to give our power away because we feel we have no other choice.   Yet we are incredible manifesters; each one of us creating our world but we don’t always use our skill wisely.  We often hold onto the ‘I don’t have..’  ‘I can’t do that…’ ‘What choice do I have..’ believing that to be true and of course that is how it do often appears. It is the result of holding on to alignment to Life flow; there is no direction or structure and the engine is malfunctioning for our unique needs.

Universal flow however is a whole other ball game.  When we align to it we are proactive, we see the pattern that we are co-creating and we interact with it by using the only true control we have, that of our thoughts.  When we are in Universal flow we are employing the whole vehicle, using all its capabilities while following the road placed before us knowing we can detour at any point. We draw its energy towards us, we play a huge role in its manifestations and we can choose how we play it out.    We notice the synchronicity that create an harmonious and balanced journey where we can enjoy the view rather than having our head down, under the bonnet, blindly tinkering with the engine.

What do you think?