The Cost of Living

Having coffee recently with a close friend, she told me a story from her past of which I had little idea.  She told me a sad and sorry tale about her relationship with an ex-partner.  She had found out a lie thatsad he had told and it quickly unraveled revealing that her whole life with him had been based in deception; in fact it was so bad he could end up in jail.  He had created a whole life based in lies and denial which had got out of control and built to something akin to the Leaning Tower of Pisa – only his construction had nothing to support it and it had fallen spectacularly.

Knowing something of her family background I asked how they had taken it.  Naturally they were furious but, surprisingly, much of their anger was directed at her.  When I asked why they would react in that way she explained that after the initial shock and pain the only feeling she held was gratitude to him.  ‘I was devastated initially to think that I had shared my life with him for so long and it was all based in a tissue of lies.  Quickly I realised that during our time together, and as a result of the outcome, I had learned an enormous amount about myself and how I face life.  He had taught me all of that, so how could I not be grateful?  After all, that is the Cost of Living!’

After I left her I thought about what she had said and indeed our experiences are the Cost of Living.  Without challenges in our life how would we learn what resourceful and courageous people we truly are?  We would never know the boundless inner strength we can access when faced with painful situations or how amazingly we pull through when life seems to throw us the curved ball.  Anyone around us, who gives us a hard time, really does help us to discover our true self; our compassion, our values and our boundaries.   We could even choose to consider them a gift in our life!

So when difficulties come along and we feel upset, angry, hurt, fearful or alone, let us take time to reflect on what is our personal Cost of Living.  When we look past the pain we will always discover the gold in every situation.  Treating the situation from a point of compassion towards ourselves and those involved helps us realise that the wisdom gained is what will carry us through to a brighter and freer future.

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Metaphysics Foundation Course Review

A review of the Metaphysics Foundation Course I recently attended.

metaphysics
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noun
 
  1. the branch of philosophy that deals with the first principles of things, including abstract concepts such as being, knowing, identity, time, and space.
    “they would regard the question of the initial conditions for the universe as belonging to the realm of metaphysics or religion”
    • abstract theory with no basis in reality.
      “his concept of society as an organic entity is, for market liberals, simply metaphysics”

I signed up to attend this course with Jane Offer from The Purple Dragonfly and all I can say is WOW, in capital letters.

I have been involved with spiritual growth and development for sometime, most of which has been self taught through reading and online courses   I have attended a few face to face courses, but never anything quite so engrossing or attention grabbing as what Jane offers in her Metaphysics Foundation Course.

From the first session, I was hooked.  Learning about and being able to be involved in live demonstrations of mind over matter.   When 4 ladies can lift me out of a chair above waist level with nothing more than 2 fingers each, it is a mind blowing experience.  We know this is possible, but to be part of the experience, it just changes your whole mindset to that next level.

The knowledge that Jane brings to her courses is outstanding. Jane and her husband David have been in the industry for many many years and their skills can only truly be appreciated when experienced first hand.The Purple Dragonfly

The detail in the handouts that we received is extensive and full of value.  I can honestly say that I am truly looking forward to the upcoming Intermediate Metaphysics Course and finally the Advanced Metaphysics Course that is offered by Jane, owner of The Purple Dragonfly.

I can highly recommend this course if you are wanting to develop your own personal intuitive skills, ability to read aura’s, learn how to work with crystals and wands and much much more.

Jane and David, thank you so much for coming into my life.

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Fondest and best wishes

Diane Purdy, a very happy customer :-).

Numerology Reading

I love Numerology and the guidance that it provides.

Every situation on the planet can be reduced to a single number; our name, our date of birth, our phone number, house number and so on. Each number has a meaning and we can work with that to create ease and balance in our life. Since I learned this ancient practice many decades ago I have used it for any situation where I require more information to make an effective decision.

Here is a personal example of how Numerology Reading works.

The number in the address of the Purple Dragonfly Shop is 256. When you add the numbers together, it reduces to Number 4.

Numerology ReadingWe needed solid grounding to achieve the initial development of the Centre and Number 4 provides the foundation of our organisation. It resonates with the vibrations and energies of practicality, grounding and building solid foundations through service, patience, devotion and application. We needed all of that to create the foundation we required. Number 4 also generates pragmatism, a straightforward practical way of dealing with problems, concerned with results rather than with theories and principles and delivering a service with dignity and based in mastery, determination and hard work. This was required to ensure that the best possible service could be offered to meet the needs of others.

The second stage required was the spiritual dynamic. Number 4 fills that too as it relates to high morals, honesty and integrity. It supports us to a level of conscientiousness grounded in reality, realistic values, stability and ability. It helps us to use our inner-wisdom to provide a sense of security, self-control and loyalty.

Finally it holds the potential for progress, discipline, system and order, dependability, passion and drive. It helps all who visit the space to prepare for renewal using their instinctual knowledge.

I was delighted to find that Number 4 is the number that relates to the energy of the Archangels; certainly a level of energy to be encouraged! Also, it links to the Emperor Tarot card instilling the conviction and responsibility to those that work here to use their vast experience to help develop peace, knowledge, strength, wisdom and self-mastery within their clients.

Pretty neat! Everything we set out to achieve and to provide to others is sitting in 256.

Now we can look at the name The Purple Dragonfly.

Each letter has a value between 1 and 9 and please trust my maths when I tell you that it reduces to Number 7. The purpose of The Purple Dragonfly Centre is to support each person to remember who they really are – a spiritual being having a physical experience – and the personal power that lies in that belief. Number 7 resonates with the vibrations and energies of the ‘Collective Consciousness’, faith and spirituality, spiritual awakening and awareness, working towards spiritual enlightenment, spiritual acceptance and development, intuition and inner-knowing, inner-wisdom, psychic abilities, thoughtfulness and understanding of others, healing, peace, endurance and perseverance, persistence of purpose, manifesting and manifestation, science and alchemy working together, discernment and knowledge-seeking, evolution, the ability to set limits and completion.

Wow, the name was chosen before the Numerology was investigated and yet there it was; everything we stand for and value. This is the energy we needed to move into the next phase of our collective consciousness and I feel that we were drawn to this location. We had no intention of resuming the work we had pursued for so many years in the UK. We came here to retire! However, the moment we stepped into the empty and dilapidated property it was as though warm arms embraced us and we felt that we had come home. We were hooked from that moment!

Finally, when we combine the Number 4 and 7 we get the karmic Master Number 11 symbolising karmic-11the principles of spiritual awakening and enlightenment, encouraging the connection to our Higher Self; to identify and live our soul mission and life purpose. Yet again the numbers spoke and reminded us to trust the Universe. Master Number 11, ‘the Messenger’, connects to all those who are here to be inspirational guiding lights in their mission is to help raise spiritual awareness. This quantifies everything we envisioned when we began the Centre in the UK way back when only to discover that we obviously had not completed our work when we journeyed here to Australia.

So there we have it – a short journey into Numerology. I wonder what your numbers and the numbers of your family unit say about you individually and collectively. Wouldn’t it make it easier to understand the flow of your life and what the underlying energy supports? You can identify the perfect career, the highs and lows of life, the perfect timing to make important changes and why situations occur as and when they do, even identify the purpose of it all. Personally, I don’t know where I would have been in my darkest times without Numerology to guide me, keep me steady and at some points even sane.

Want to learn more about Numerology Reading?  We have a workshop with Kate Ellis this Saturday, 8th October 2016, that explores this amazing subject.

Give yourself a gift and try it for yourself. Discover the hidden world that resonates around you.

Please ring 03 9844 5294 for more information

Jane Offer

Australian Organic Awareness Month

October 2016 is Organic Awareness Month

There is growing awareness of the benefits and a huge move towards eating Organic foods – dairy, meat and vegetables – we know it makes sense but what about other things we regularly use?   Cotton clothing, deodorants, moisturisers, make-up, toothepaste, tampons; all full of chemicals to assist with production, to create an acceptable colour, to assist with non-creasing and imported goods are sprayed with chemicals for our ‘safety’.    Anything that touches our skin absorbs directly into our blood stream so what we wear, sleep on or in, apply to our body or breathe in affects our health.

You might be surprised to know that conventional cotton accounts for nearly 25% of the insecticides and 10% of the pesticides used throughout the world, although is it grown on only 3% of the total cultivated area. Cotton crops have been plagued by numerous diseases and pests over the years and rank fourth in the list of most heavily chemical fertilised crops.  Unfortunately,  the excessive use of chemicals in conventional cotton production has led to a great deal of environmental pollution.

As our awareness grows, manufacturers have been forced to change ingredients in many cotton products.  In the case of sanitary products, for example bleach was used to make the products pure white.  No-one would want to use a grey coloured product right?  We want pristine white but that involved a highly poisonous bleaching agent which caused toxic shock leading to death in many women. Whilst that bleach has now been banned, many other toxins remain in these products.

The same situation applies to deodorants with many still unaware of the hidden dangers in the active ingredients of modern day deodorant. These products use potentially hazardous chemicals as a way of reducing perspiration and odour with the primary ingredient being aluminium.   Working to block the underarm pores,  Aluminium has been linked to several potentially life threatening diseases.

As awareness rises manufacturers are forced to be more open with their labelling; not fully open but improving.  Not all ingredients are required to be listed if they are in low enough measures but, of course, when a product is used on a daily basis there is a build up in the body and the levels can reach catastrophic proportions in some people.

Even supposedly natural products need to be screened carefully. Sodium Lauryl Sulphate is toxic manufactured chemical and is used in many beauty and body products including those for babies.  As public awareness grew, manufactures began to substitute Sodium Laureth Sulphate, a plant based chemical, proffered as a ‘natural’ alternative.  However, the interaction with the other chemicals in the product,  it becomes as toxic as Sodium Lauryl Sulphate.

the-chemical-maze-bookThere is a great little book called the Chemical Maze which lists every chemical used in manufacturing and the level of danger they represent to our health.  Simply laid out, it is very quick to check out the ingredients of any product and clearly shows levels of toxicity.  None of this is to create paranoia that we are slowly being poisoned but it is our awareness that creates change and puts the control of what we are exposed to firmly back into our hands.

Australian Organic Awareness Month at The Purple Dragonfly

At the Purple Dragonfly we carry The Chemical Maze, natural salt deodorants, soap, healthy cookware, bedding and other clothing items.  Also we can obtain any other natural and safe products you would like to introduce into your family.

Try this out!

Homemade Natural Deodorant with Coconut Oil

Ingredients:

  • 3 tbsp organic virgin coconut oil
  • 2 tbsp shea butter
  • 3 tbsp baking soda
  • 2 tbsp cornstarch
  • 5 drops preferred essential oil  (good ones to try are lavender, orange or clary sage)

Method:

  1. Make a double boiler by placing a half-pint glass jar in the middle of a small pot of water. Bring water to a simmer. Add coconut oil and shea butter to the jar and let melt.
  2. Turn off the heat, add baking soda and cornstarch, and stir until completely smooth. Mix in the essential oil of your choice. Let cool.
  3. At room temperature, the deodorant is hard. You can scrape out a small ball and apply it directly to your armpits, or transfer it to an old deodorant tube for easier application.In warmer months, you’ll need to keep this deodorant in your refrigerator to prevent the coconut oil from liquefying.

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Jane xx

Go Within

Many of us seeking the purpose of our life have the growing understanding that everyone who touches our life offers an important step in our personal growth.  The more challenging the experience each one brings, the deeper we are invited to look into ourselves – to really know ourselves.  We often miss the point of the experience by making it about ourselves; our hurt or upset. We get lost in the emotional chaos that our feelings create and spend time on guilt, anger and blame believing that as a ‘spiritual’ person we shouldn’t hold these feelings.  But we are human, we do have these feelings and the true spiritual path is to acknowledge that within us and accept it, not fight it.  Accepting is not condoning of course but by knowing that side to us, and acknowledging the gift the other person offers by bringing it to our attention, helps us to live in mastery.

It is only through someone instilling impatience in us that we can possibly understand what it is to be patient; the person who causes us to make judgements about them or ourselves gives us the opportunity to cease to judge; by experiencing lack we can know the joy of abundance.  Without sorrow we cannot know joy and without resentment we cannot learn compassion and the only way we can receive these opportunities to explore is through others.

We each hold a unique piece of the jigsaw that makes up the picture of life; each piece has its own shape, design and aspect and our piece is solely ours.  We are invited to notice that as each piece falls into place around us, fitting perfectly in with our piece, the picture becomes clearer and wider so we can gain clarity and inner peace.  As our inner wisdom grows we begin to see each event as a gift and not an aggravation, teaching us to be more aligned with our true nature and to harmonise with those around us.   Each of us faces life based on the stories that have created our frame of reference; thoughts, feelings and beliefs put in place by others over many years that can give us a skewed vision of who we are and what we are not.  We then try to make decisions based on that vision of self and often we become disappointed or highly judgemental of our perceived ‘failures’.  We are so hard on ourselves and feel that in some way we are just not good enough.  But good enough for what?  We know  that no-one else can hold the position of being us; our jigsaw piece is unique and ours alone.  Therefore, by deduction we must be the ‘best man for the job’.

The Purple DragonflyWe each face challenges in life to one degree or another and we cannot compare these situations to another’s joy or pain.  No-one is better or worse off than another; it is simply the pattern of their piece of the jigsaw.  For some, another’s journey may seem unbearable yet it brings us the message of courage and strength so that we can weave into our own discoveries.   Our observations teach  us both gratitude and fortitude; grateful for being who we are and the knowing that we are incredibly strong and resourceful and fabulous into the bargain.

So over this holiday period use your well earned rest to become the observer; observe your reaction to those around you and accept it as an opportunity to know yourself.   Find your boundary and know how far you are prepared to go to accommodate another’s behaviour and how far you are prepared to buy into their perception of you.   Is it true?  After all they can only guess at what you think, feel or believe – they have no true idea as the only framework they have is their own.  Go within, quietly and with purpose because it is not for anyone else.  They have done their job by bringing it to your attention, now it is your turn to assess what it means for you.

Seeking the Truth

More and more we are seeing the truth of situations being revealed in the world.  It was predicted that in the new millennium there would be revelations in all areas of world matter and we have all witnessed it on a global and personal level over the last years.

From the year 2000 we have seen the prediction spectacularly manifesting;  the downfall of unethical business such as Enron, the Church’s historical cover up of child abuse, Julian Assange making public thousands of emails showing shady dealings with government officials and even the inaccurately report of weapons of mass destruction in Iraq which has lead the western world into a long and costly war, mainly in loss of life of men, women and children, with very little positive outcome to show for it.

sodalite-roundIndividually, we re experiencing it too with our craving for truth became stronger. We say ‘If only he/she would be honest with me. I can just feel they are not being truthful’. We question the motives of government and systems that are showing increasingly not to be in our best interests.  But more importantly, we are questioning our own truth.  There is an innate part of us that is awakening to the realisation that inner truth is the key to peace and harmony in our life and we want it!

We know deep within us that we have been living the illusion that we are not good enough, that we do not have enough or that we are not strong enough to make changes; that there is nothing we can do to change our world.  Now we are beginning to challenge the illusion and see the reality – we are strong enough and we can change our little part of the world.  If we each do it for ourselves it will spread like ripples on a pond.  It doesn’t need to be major upheaval, just little steps towards the inner truth we seek.

Can’t means Won’t

We have been taught to be afraid of failure often disguised as worrying about what others think of us.  I’m sure you remember as a child acting out in frustration and a parent saying to you ‘Stop it, people are looking. They will think you are naughty?’.  This was how the pattern started, teaching us that we were failing in some way, that we were wrong to show our feelings, of being ourselves.   A simple set of words that our parents used because they had the same pattern laid on them as children.  Similarly, they inadvertently taught us lack because that was the experience of their parents and maybe they were embarrassed by it, they tried to protect us from disappointment because they perhaps had not had the opportunity to fulfil their dreams and felt less in the eyes of others because of it; so many scenarios created out of love and fear.   As parents we all want to be seen as effective and how our children behave and what they achieve is an indication to the world that this is this case and therefore we and they become acceptable.  And we all want to be acceptable!

Every time you hear yourself think or say ‘I can’t’, challenge it.  Ask yourself ‘Can I?’  or ‘Am I afraid to try?’.  We know we are capable of anything because we only have to look back over our lives and remember the challenges we have faced.  The basic things like learning to walk – we’d never done it before yet we stood up and kept trying until we got it right.  We all experienced that first day of school; going to a place we had never been and having to leave our family to stay with strangers.  It was, for many, a traumatic experience yet we overcame it, we learned to cope with the unknown.  And what about learning to drive a car?  Do you remember having to learn how to reverse around a corner?   Did you get it right the first time?  No, you just kept trying until you got it right and each time you got it wrong it was a step towards mastering it.

This is the truth we seek; the fact that we are enough, we can do anything we put our mind to and we always have the necessary strength to take us through to the end.  We are good people, amazingly strong and fantastic and what we each bring to the world is a unique pattern of experience that adds to the whole. Best of all, it is our ‘mistakes‘ that make us who we are, that guide us through difficult times and act as inspiration for others.  So, are they mistakes or just another enlightening experience?

Sodalite stone has a strong vibration that will bring your attention to the qualities sodalite-1of idealism and truth.

Its energy may stimulate you to live up to your own ideals and ideas, about the nature of truth.

It has strong metaphysical properties that may stimulate latent creative abilities and it aids teachers, writers and students to understand the deeper philosophical principles.

Its energy is particularly helpful to aid the development of intuition.

It is excellent to aid communication and may help you if you are doing public speaking. It may help you to understand the patterns behind such things as astrology and the tarot.

Its color is mainly blue, or blue-grey with white Calcite mixed within the stones.

These crystals are a beautiful blue color, so they is a lovely stone to make into jewellery, but there are some stones that contain inclusions in shades of yellow, red and green.

The meaning of its name relates to its high sodium content. , This is a strong third eye chakra and throat chakra stone that brings an excellent energy into your life. Within the third eye chakra area is where the pineal gland is located.

working within the third eye with Sodalite stone has a strong ability to accelerate the process.

If you missed our other post Soladite is the Chrystal for Truth Seekers, then please click here to read it.

Sodalite Stone

It will aid you to develop your intuition, This stone has a vibration that aids truth, and helps you to better understand the life you are living, and how you came to be in the situation in which you find yourself.

Many people find it easier to avoid the truth, as it can sometimes be uncomfortable at certain times. This stone aids idealism and self-discipline, and the combination will benefit you to enhance your ability to live a more authentic life.

Sodalite Stone has strong metaphysical properties that may stimulate latent creative abilities.

It may help you to understand the deeper philosophical principles, and may assist you if you are doing public speaking.

Its energy may aid you with developing your intuition and stimulate psychic visions. It will help you to understand the patterns behind such things as astrology and the tarot.

This lovely blue stone has a vibration that may stimulate the qualities of idealism and truth, and it aids you to communicate and begin to live up to your own ideals and ideas.

When you buy a new stone or crystal, it is advantageous to use it on its own first. Once you are fully aware of its energy, you may choose to combine it with other stones.

Combine stones for short periods to begin with, as individuals may react differently. Knowing how you can combine various stones may be helpful, as this allows you to get the most from your crystals, and may help you to solve specific problems in your life.

Seo-mel bringer of new vision

Crocodile

Speaks of instinct of survival; we are eternal beings and the crocodile reminds us that our spirit survives eternally.  It precedes the body and if the spirit suffers the body will suffer as a result.  The corocodile has lived on this planet for millions of years reminding us of the eternal nature of our being. re-creation and the desire to pass on our strength to our young.  The most important part

Look for an opportunity to ingest new knowledge and wisdom. This totem animal contains all the unbridled creative forces of the world and the fury and ferocity of Primal Energies. It is the keeper and protector of all knowledge.

Know that this is the beginning of a new period of growth and regeneration. Use breathing techniques to keep yourself balanced during this time of change and give yourself time to integrate all of the changes you are making in your life.  Patience is key at the moment.

Essential Oil – Black Pepper

Changing

Times they are a-changing!

Have you noticed that your life is changing; things don’t seem quite the same in your thoughts, your feelings and what you are prepared to accept into your life?  It’s as though suddenly you can see more clearly what has been going on and that you are ready to ‘do it different’.    It can be painful, disorientating and unsettling on the one hand but deeply insightful on the other.

Why does the persistent and relentless energy of change seem to be stronger at the moment? Part of the reason is, that during late August and the first half of September, the Sun was in Virgo creating a move to deeper awareness and strengthening our desire for positive change to come forward, with its essence being that any change is better than no change at all.  This may have created some concerns but, as the Sun enters Libra, many of the blocks that have been standing in our way to achieving a fabulous and joyous life, can dissolve when we embrace the opportunity to receive the information that allows us to make well informed choices.  When we allow life to flow, we align ourselves to what sits deep in our own knowing, take action and change our future.

If you don’t like something, change it.

If you can’t change it, change your attitude toward it.

~  Maya Angelou

Some of us do not like change, we may even be afraid of it, but we cannot allow that to lure us into accepting any circumstance that is not comfortable.  We can accept that we are the only one that can change our life; no outside influence or person can do that for us or to us.  Only we, the individual, can challenge our own thought patterns, make a different choice and become awakened and empowered by life. It takes courage to step out onto that road of discovery but the inevitability of time means that nothing can stay the same anyway so we may as well take that first step consciously.

We have the potential to create changes right across our life; doing nothing or having nothing happen will not be possible for anyone at this time and by December this year we will each have had the opportunity to move through a really positive phase.  This phase has the potential to change every area of our life including, family, home, career and even relationships if we choose.  All we have to do take that first step!

Jane xxx

Detachment

Last year was a year of endings and the energy of new beginnings kicked in around September.   You maybe feeling the sense of wishing to change things in your life – a job, a home, a situation – and that is simply the death and rebirth cycle we all experience periodically.  The January New Moon in Aquarius was a definite starting point for setting the wheels in motion. Aquarius energy is all about starting fresh, thinking outside of the box and finding new meaning to things.

Detachment is the way to aid this process.  When we get caught up in the details or dragged into the drama it is difficult to see things clearly. Our mind becomes clouded and we cannot break free from the fear of change.  This is how it has always been so what will happen if it changes?  Will I cope?  When we can detach from all that it is easier to see the way forward; the way that is best for our own well-being.   How many people do you know, maybe even yourself, that stay in a situation that is painful, upsetting or unhealthy because they feel they have no choice?  They fear the outcome of making a stand and changing the situation.   Well, detachment gives you back the power of choice and helps you to move forward again.  With a clear mind you can see the bigger picture and view things in a new way.  Use the power and energy of this period to regain strength and resolve to see a new version of your own truth.

Crystal to help us move forward

Smoky Quartz helps you us achieving our full potential. It helps to release all the blocked, old and stagnant energy in our body. Once all of the old energy is removed, new energy is able to fill all the open space with light and hope.

Citrine  helps us to develop a positive attitude. It encourages us to go with the flow and let go of anything from the past that is creating unhappiness. It promotes the enjoyment of new things and experiences.

Carnelian is the stone of individuality, creativity and courage. It encourages an awareness of the connection between our emotional state and our state of being.  Carnelian dissolves fear, helps us to trust ourselves and our perceptions, and boosts self-confidence.

Crystals for Releasing Anger

Many people believe that anger is a negative emotion that should be suppressed at all costs.  This belief arises from a confusion.  Most of us confuse normal healthy anger with rage which is negative, destructive and unhealthy emotion because, at some point, as children, we will have experienced a parent or carer display rage and we have been frightened by it or we have expressed frustration and been punished for it.   Therefore, we learn very quickly to hold anger in which has a devastating effects on our health and well-being.

Anger is the messenger that tells us we are experiencing underlying emotions such as fear, anxiety, shock, pain or jealousy.  It is an important and necessary emotion as it allows us to develop boundaries and tells us that we are not comfortable with being treated disrespectfully, or that someone is invading our space or overriding our opinion.  It is important to immediately express those feelings kindly and gently.  It is counterproductive to leave it to stew and then yell and scream; we are then considered as unreasonable or unstable and our feelings are discounted.  However, if we speak out immediately by saying ‘That is an interesting opinion and I hear what you are saying.  However, it doesn’t sit well with me as I feel ….’ or ‘What do you mean when you say…… because I am feeling undermined by that and I am sure that can’t be the case’.  No-one will take exception to calmly stated statements such as that that and your voice will be heard.

Obviously, we have applied the ‘put up and shut up’ approach for most of our life so now we have a new habit to break.  Does it ever end?  Well, just know it is just a learned response and, as well as you learned it, it you can unlearn it.  All it takes is practice and a little help.  The first time you say ‘No’, without using the word ‘No’ of course, you will feel nervous to say the least.

When asked to do something, you don’t want to do, you can say ‘Oh I wished I had known earlier because of course I would help you but I have an appointment at that time which I cannot break.  However, I can see you on Tuesday at the local café and we can have a chat then’.

There you have it!  You have said ‘No’ without using the word and put forward what you are willing to do at a time that suits you.  How easy was that?  The other person is so busy looking forward to the Tuesday catch-up that they forget what they wanted in the first place, you’re off the hook and everyone is happy.

Still feel nervous?  Here are a few crystals that will help the process

Carnelian calms anger and helps to ground you to the Earth so that you can think rationally and not react with intense emotions. Think of Carnelian as a preventative.

Amethyst is a wonderful crystal to have handy which helps to release stress, anxiety and anger

Sugilite helps to eliminate hostility, anger, abrasiveness, jealousy and prejudice. It brings peace and relaxation to the user.

Diopside is a beautiful green crystal and acts as a reminder that health issues arise when we repress emotion. When we face these issues, as challenging and sometimes difficult as they may be, we need to remember it is in our best interest to let go.   Diopside helps us to address the questions, ‘Why are you holding on? What does it serve to hold on to anger and fear?’

Blue Kyanite calms and dispels anger and frustration, removes energy blockages and releases repressed emotion.

Any of these crystals can be carried as small crystal or worn as jewellery.  They are most effective when placed in contact with the skin.

Friendship

This week began with a Full Moon in Virgo, as well as a Lunar Eclipse and all  while Venus is retrograde – making this a time for of heightened emotions, new beginnings and great for manifestation.  Manifestation can indicate the formation of new ideas and plans still to be developed – however, negative manifestations can also come to fruition – so be cautious of what thoughts cross your mind at this time.

It is with this thought in mind, that I write about our reading earlier this week.  The Two of Cups is the card that came up – a  card of new friendships, bonds, relationships and partnerships – and the bringing together of opposites.  The number two represents those opposites – the masculine and the feminine, dark and light, spiritual and intellectual, active and passive. Twos can be about mirroring each other in relationships and also mirroring the environment around us.  The symbolism of the cups (and the stream in the background) is the emotional side of our being.

In life, one of the most important lessons we should learn is total and unconditional acceptance of those around us, especially those who are different from ourselves.  The reason I use the word “especially” here is due to the fact that it is particularly difficult to accept those who are different from ourselves, and who have different ideas and opinions.  Nevertheless, every person deserves respect, recognition and love. Of course we should be different from one another in order to create an equillibrium and balance in the world around us.

People always come into our lives for reasons – they might end up staying longer term, or might just be part of our lives for a short window.  Just enough time to allow us to learn what we need to learn from that friendship or relationship.  Sometimes we meet people, don’t necessarily create a bond with them immediately, but then, perhaps years later, they return to our lives due to changes they have made to their lives, or we have made to our lives – but essentially, both parties are then ready for the path that bond is due to take.

This card can also mean that there will be a reconcilliation between those who have previously had disputes – perhaps the ground will be laid for those parties to communicate better, and to find a resolution to their differences.  There are so many ways in which relationships, friendships and partnerships work.

Not only do we refer to these bonds with other people, but also to our own internal workings.  Our emotions and our logic, spiritual and intellect.  When total trust is achieved, and we are able to listen to the quiet voice (or the little voice) within us, we are guided to wisdom we had no idea was part of us.

I wish you Love, Peace and Happiness as you explore new possibilities available to you – whether in your personal life or as newly developed business partnerships.  May they be successful and bring to our lives all we need.

Thank you again for spending this time with me.  I look forward to our next reading

With love

Sandy